Can kindness cure the world….

There are some realities and consequential thoughts that rest heavily upon your soul… Today I am having those moments…

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Can kindness cure the world….

I am not one to engage into political discussions or conflicts but today my mind feels congested by the negativity that is floating around.

The current political climate shifts ultimately between matters that distinguish people between one another and for this I feel emotionally heavy and not as though the political environment reflects me as a citizen.


I was raised in a home created by parents who’s country of origin was not Australia. They made Australia their home and that creation was borne of a solid work ethic, complete integration into Australian culture with gratitude and appreciation towards this country. My parents immigrated in a time where Europeans were the subject of racism. Fifty years ago, Australia was the country commercialised as the land of opportunity internationally. The invitation was sent out globally to invite others to inhabit and make Australia home.

Fifty years later, the global landscape has significantly changed. There are a number of countries that are dangerous to remain in and yet this is the time that the doors are closed on those in need. The most vulnerable of the global community are knocking and instead there has been a choice to ignore their pleas or redirect them to the neighbours. It saddens me that Australia has become the country where the invitation has been rescinded.

I was equally raised on a home filled with love.
It was a powerful love unspoken and undefined. I was never made to feel or believe that love needs to be explained nor justified. Love was a feeling that was excepted as just being. Love just is.
I step back as I see political discussion continue about marriage equality. Still.
The discussion suggests that there is a need to justify who you choose to love and commit to. How could that be? We have never needed to justify the love between family, between friends or between opposite gender relationships…

And that’s because love just is…

The world is hurting.

The global community is struggling with natural disasters, famines, wars and tragedies that are dealt at the hand of another. In combination of all those issues, could the answer not be more togetherness, more love, more kindness?

Perhaps this is a simplistic approach but could kindness, acceptance and love not be the cure for the worlds pain?

I was raised to have an open heart.

I was raised to accept all with kindness and respect.

Even though my parents faced racism early on in their lives, it was never replicated at home.

I was not raised to distinguish between race; religion; sexual orientation; class or status. I was not raised to judge another on matters not of their choosing but instead encouraged to see people only based on their actions towards me personally.

I am now raising my own family and I have the responsibility of how to teach my daughter how to live in this world. I have the responsibility of how she perceives love, kindness and acceptance of all people and I take that responsibility on with both hands and all my heart and soul and pray to the universe that she will become part of the change needed in the world for the world needs to heal.


~ F.P

The emotional de clutter and RU OK …

With the much anticipated arrival of Spring comes the desire for de cluttering and re organisation. Sorting through old clothes and bits and pieces accumulated over time that no longer serves a purpose; cleaning out the winter feel to make room for brightness and freshness that comes with Spring. The start of Spring usually signifies clean homes.

However, in amongst all of the physical cleaning, how much time do we spend de cluttering our emotional, mental self? How much left over emotional clutter are we carrying around?

In recognition of RUOK Day yesterday, I turn my thoughts to mental wellness and care. Over the last few years, I have come to appreciate the immeasurable value of self care and the impact on life when that care is not occurring.

It’s clear that time just keeps ticking over without any assistance on our part. Life continues; positive and negative life events happen and our being continues to take the brunt. At what point do we check in with ourselves and give our mind the space to breathe out the toxins and negativity?

There are times when our soul feel congested. We feel as though we have hit capacity in terms of space to take in life and I am often heard saying “when it rains it pours” because life just continues happening and there really isn’t any higher consideration that you have already had so much.

My emotional state often translates in my physical self. Fatigue, headaches, sore eyes, dry and unhealthy skin colour, a lower immune system and feeling run down all the time. I’m not a doctor nor do I purport to be medically minded in the slightest, but I can see when my body is reacting to my souls congestion.

It is in those times that we need to step back to de clutter our emotional world and implement the magic of letting go.

I’m not much for cliches or catch phrases and I concede that “letting go” is definitely a cliche bounced around so flippantly when the reality is somewhat more challenging than clearing out the cupboards but often the tougher tasks are the ones that create the most benefit in our lives.

Here are some ways I de clutter my emotional world:

1. I take time out of each day to disconnect.
I have become accustomed to being available all the time through various mediums and be reactive to everything. Turn off all notifications for 20 minutes and just be with my own thoughts helps me to regroup. The world does not fall apart the minute I step away from it.

2. I learnt to feel comfortable with saying no.
I can’t be everywhere or take on everything – I am not superhuman, much as I like to purport to be. Saying yes to everything I do not have the capacity for causes unnecessary stress that I can’t take on any further. The stress I carry festers into negativity and that in turn casts a shadow over the beauty in my world. I become a cranky mum, a distracted wife and a crazy, not so fun person to be around – even for myself! This week my busy life schedule made me pause to ask “has this task caused a detriment to my family?” Even by asking, I think I answered my own question and that is now taken very much on board for my next weeks life planning.

3. I take the time to listen to my self.
I listen to my body. I listen to the clutter in my mind. I mindfully ask the questions about what I need to nourish my self right now. This year I have been struct down with this horrendous flu and have no doubt that my lack of self care has been a contributing factor that needs a greater eye and care kept.

4. Remind yourself that not everything requires a solution.
Some things do not have a solution. Some things merely need to be sat with and acknowledged that the situation is tough and not everything needs to be fixed or changed or understood really. Sometimes it is merely about accepting the reality, without the need to accept that you accept it.

6. Nature.
For me, nothing is a greater form of medicine than sitting in a park with my shoes off… I can reconnect in a Lion King, circle of life kinda way.

7. I have become realistic about my time capacity.
Admittedly this one was difficult to grasp. We have become programmed to be busy and accept that is normal because everyone seems to be busy. I have instead gone back to a simply technique of life planning. What needs to be done and what can be pushed down or even off my to do list… One of my new mottos is that so long as there is clean underwear in the draw the washing can wait until tomorrow.

8. Connect!
Finally – I have learned to respond genuinely to the question of how am I…simple yes – but how often do we merely answer good as a knee jerk reaction whether it be not to reveal how not okay we are going? Or because we are trying to maintain a facade that life perfect.
Life is not perfect. Life is messy and chaotic and beautiful. It is stressful and exhausting and some times defeating.
Feel okay to respond honestly. Feel okay to breathe out, let your shoulders slump to let the weight of the world slip off them and tell another that in that moment you are not feeling so okay and why. Feel okay to check in with your GP and tell them if things are a little rough. Tell your significant other when things are getting to you. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Talking about it might be the little therapy you need to gain a perspective about it and to gain the control back to let it go.


And don’t forget to ask another and actually wait for the answer. Show your openness to receive an honest answer and listen. Listen to listen and not to respond… Because sometimes the difference for one person may be that they felt the world finally heard or saw them… And do it everyday…not just yesterday because the calendar told us to…

~ F.P