To my dear angel heart,
At this moment, you are light years away from any meaningful walk down an isle that is not the local grocery shop, better described as chaotic zigzagging to touch anything you can reach.
You are miles away from a heartbreak that may shape your idea on life and love and you are enjoying the blissful age of showing love with few words and through your innocent affections but at this moment, I choose to pen the ideas of marriage in hope you too come to learn.
So my dear daughter…
Fall in love.
Be not afraid of any future heartache for any guarding of the heart may lose you the opportunity to find the greatest love story of your soul.
Age does not determine the ‘rightness’ of your love. Your daddy and I feel in love as young and spirited teens. We grew together-we navigated life together-made mistakes together and learned but we knew, we always knew that we are a commitment and two souls living our life’s path in compliment to one another and not in consumption of the other and we continue to love each other madly.
Embrace the fear accompanying love. Giving your heart to anyone is one of the greatest acts of taking a leap of faith. You cannot control the response of another but be not afraid for those three words to leave your lips to land on another’s heart. The greatest regrets come from the times we have not more than the times we have.
Throw out the idea of a perfect love. Love takes work, it takes faith and it takes courage.
Settle not for stable. No stability in life is worth the sacrifice of true, awesome, heart pounding love.
Be cautious of distractions by glamour and promise. Be not dazzled by promise of lavish gifts and exotic escapes-love can flourish merely between the souls of each other-minus the fireworks, the roses and any grand gestures.
Marry the person you can laugh at life with… Because when life throws you lightening bolts of chaos sometimes the only option open is to laugh!
Marry the one who holds you tightly when you cry, swooping your hair back caught in your tears and still manages to make a little smile appear… But be cautious if your tears are forever falling over them.
Marry the one who you find yourself caught up admiring.
Marry the one who’s compassion shines especially when they stop to pat a puppy.
Marry the one who dreams your dreams and encourages you to dream to greater scales.
Marry not merely because you were proposed to but because your soul sung the song of a hundred angels rejoicing over the path of fate.
Marry when the time is right by your souls clock and not by the expectation.
Your daddy and I waited until the universe aligned with our souls and life schedules which was not always the accepted situation of those who questioned our motives for delay.
I will tell you a secret – there was no ‘perfect’ time for a wedding.
There was no perfect time for our wedding…we had already well and truly committed our love and that did not need the approval of others as you won’t either because in every love story, you write the rules.
Or marry not at all.
You choose the path of your heart and above all-be genuine and navigated by love.